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Stigma Against Sex Workers Must End Stigma Against Sex Workers Must End

I’m a black woman who is over 35, and for a little over a decade, I was a sex worker. It doesn’t matter what kind of sex work; what matters is that I have an adult lifetime of experience, not only in sex work, but also with the painful stigma attached to it.

From Bus Stops to Hip-Hop: An Ode to Around-the-Way Girls From Bus Stops to Hip-Hop: An Ode to Around-the-Way Girls

Cardi B, we’re really happy for you and we’re gonna let you finish, but girls from the hood been at this for a minute ...

Kevin Durant Is Black AF Kevin Durant Is Black AF

Blackness is not a monolith.

The Real Anti-Blackness of Comedy  The Real Anti-Blackness of Comedy 

Tiffany Haddish has had quite a year. From her breakout role in the film Girls Trip to landing her own comedy special on Netflix, Haddish has become quite the household name. Recently she had the opportunity to be the first black comedienne to host Saturday Night Live in the show’s 42-year run. While much of the…

The Crime This Time: Partying While Black and Successful The Crime This Time: Partying While Black and Successful

“That’s a nice dress,” the officer said as I stood frozen while she snapped my picture. I thanked her without smiling as she led me to the bright cell with cornflower-colored bars where I would stay until I was summoned once more to be fingerprinted. I wondered how the woman in the cell across from mine could sleep,…

Don’t Hurt
Yourself: Unicorns Aren’t Real and You’re Not a Special Snowflake Don’t Hurt Yourself: Unicorns Aren’t Real and You’re Not a Special Snowflake

Many moons ago, fresh off an unexpected achievement and gaining a toehold in both the music industry and the fun, freewheeling network that was once Twitter, I decided to celebrate my unlikely success with the social media tagline, “Just your average Grammy-nominated goddess next door ... may I borrow some sugar?”

'Crazy Baldheads' Seek to Eliminate Dreads 'Crazy Baldheads' Seek to Eliminate Dreads

Is there a causal connection between hairstyles worn by black boys and their future success, and should we strongly encourage these boys to avoid wearing dreadlocks and braids? That’s what Steve Perry, Steve Harvey and the U.S. Army seem to be arguing. Recently, they teamed up to disseminate pearls for success to an…

Naomi Campbell and the ‘Twice as Good’ as White People Myth Naomi Campbell and the ‘Twice as Good’ as White People Myth

Recently, for The Guardian, Naomi Campbell shared an excerpt from a limited edition, two-volume book that chronicles her life as a groundbreaking and highly successful supermodel and all of the opportunities stemming from that. Yet for all that is shared in the excerpt—her as a supermodel, her speaking with world…

Your 4.0 GPA Won’t Protect You From Systemic Racism Your 4.0 GPA Won’t Protect You From Systemic Racism

Being “twice as good” won’t save you from becoming a target.

Dear Respectability Politics Brigade: This Is Time For You To Shut The Fuck Up Dear Respectability Politics Brigade: This Is Time For You To Shut The Fuck Up

In the wake of the Emanuel AME church in Charleston, South Carolina, this letter is equally outdated and timely.

Respectability Politics Are No Solution; They Are A Surrender Respectability Politics Are No Solution; They Are A Surrender

At times like these, when the uncomfortable behavior of (mostly) Black people is broadcast to a (mostly) White audience and becomes a national discussion point, a particular type of Black person tends to emerge. Actually, "emerge" might not even be the best word, because it implies that this person rose from…

How "Coon" Became The New "Female" How "Coon" Became The New "Female"

"while the word female is appropriate under certain contexts, beware of the cat who uses it as his universal descriptor of all women. honestly, although i have a few theories (my favorite one has something to do with sting and the police), i have absolutely no idea why this is such a strong indicator of aint sh*tness.…

Dear Black People: Stop Spreading The Lie That Music Was "Better" Back In The Day Dear Black People: Stop Spreading The Lie That Music Was "Better" Back In The Day

I have a confession: Every time I hear someone say music “ain’t what it used to be,” my ass itches. I mean this figuratively but you get the picture: This is, IMHO, a top tier bullshit statement — one of many that have somehow become hallowed communal knowledge. We peddle in many generically “truthy” statements that…

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