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OWN’s Love Is ____ Aims to Redefine #RelationshipGoals  OWN’s Love Is ____ Aims to Redefine #RelationshipGoals 

Many of us want love to be wrapped up in an attractive package with all the bells, whistles, hugs and kisses. I know I do. Father God, please let my mate be smart, kind, generous, a dreamer but a doer, mentally stable, financially free, an advocate and a consumer of therapy, and also, can he look like Idris Elba,…

Building Without Tools: 4:44 and the Power of Vulnerability, Part 2 Building Without Tools: 4:44 and the Power of Vulnerability, Part 2

What I thought when I met my dad was, “Oh, I’m free to love now.” But it’s like, how are you gonna do it? ... You’ve never done this before; no one informed you how to do this. You don’t even have the tools to do it …

A Relationship Without Kindness Is Doomed From the Start A Relationship Without Kindness Is Doomed From the Start

Recently I came across a Facebook post in which someone told a bride-to-be, “I am happy you are marrying a kind man.” That one phrase in the sea of the other congratulatory messages resonated with me because I lived with a man for six years who was emotionally distant and unkind. And the warning signs were there; I…

Don’t Hurt
Yourself: Unicorns Aren’t Real and You’re Not a Special Snowflake Don’t Hurt Yourself: Unicorns Aren’t Real and You’re Not a Special Snowflake

Many moons ago, fresh off an unexpected achievement and gaining a toehold in both the music industry and the fun, freewheeling network that was once Twitter, I decided to celebrate my unlikely success with the social media tagline, “Just your average Grammy-nominated goddess next door ... may I borrow some sugar?”

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