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How to Shut Down Bad-Faith 'Debates' on Social Media How to Shut Down Bad-Faith 'Debates' on Social Media

They don’t really want to debate you, those randos who crawl into the comments of your Facebook posts and your tweets and your blog posts (hi!) asking to “debate” you over shit we should all agree on by now. You can’t debate them in any meaningful way, because they are mouths without ears. You can block them or take…

In Defense of Replying All

These days, our inboxes are crawling with spam, far beyond the stuff that makes it past the actual designated ‘spam’ folder. There are the newsletters we swear we’ve already unsubscribed from, the creepily personal messages from politicians, the desperate pleas for attention from Facebook, and now, thanks to the…

How to Find Common Ground With Your First College Roommate How to Find Common Ground With Your First College Roommate

For most college freshmen, your dorm roommate is the first person you’ve had to share such close quarters with who isn’t related to you. They might be less annoying than a sibling, but you won’t have parents there to mediate disputes. Here’s how to get off on the right foot with the person who will sleeping three feet…

Holding the Door Open Is Not That Hard Holding the Door Open Is Not That Hard

It’s not hard. It feels hard! When you walk through a door right before someone else, you need to hold that door open for them, or else you’re rude. But if they’re a little too far behind you, they have to hurry to catch up, and then (as redditor Voldetitty recently pointed out) you’re actually being annoying. At some…

Don't Invite Your Partner to a Friend Event Don't Invite Your Partner to a Friend Event

When you fall in love, it feels like you never want to spend a moment away from your special someone. How fun for everyone else you spend time with.

What Not to Say to Someone Who's Sick What Not to Say to Someone Who's Sick

Getting diagnosed with a serious illness that requires a lot of medical intervention is an extremely stressful experience. There’s a lot to navigate, and as the friend, family member or even casual acquaintance of someone going through a difficult health scenario, you want to help ease the burden, not make it worse.…

Stop Feeling Awkward About Thanking People Stop Feeling Awkward About Thanking People

It’s good to recognize what’s good in your life (even, and especially, when it seems like the rest is terrible). But if you express that in the form of gratitude journals, prayers, or meditation, you’re sort of making that feeling a solitary one. What about the people in your life you’re truly thankful for? Couldn’t…

Stop Posting Pictures of Strangers on Social Media Stop Posting Pictures of Strangers on Social Media

Taking someone’s photo without their consent and posting it on the internet is a shitty thing to do. It’s invasive, inappropriate, and can even put the other person in danger. In a world that made any sense, this wouldn’t require further explanation. This would be a commonly understood part of the social contract.

How Do You Get Your Friends to Stop Flirting With Each Other? How Do You Get Your Friends to Stop Flirting With Each Other?

This week we have a woman who gets along with men well in a platonic way, but recently introduced a flirty gal pal to the mix. Can she get them to stop flirting with each other? Or does she need to get over it?

How to Deal When You're the Last Single Person in Your Friend Group How to Deal When You're the Last Single Person in Your Friend Group

A few years ago, most if not all of my friends were single. On any given weeknight, I’d meet with one or five of them for a drink, and we’d swap stories about bad dates, bad sex, and bad crushes who refused to give us the time of day.

How Not to Be a Jackass at Concerts How Not to Be a Jackass at Concerts

Although concerts can be transcendental experiences that inspire collectivism unlike anything else on this earth, anyone who’s been to a show has at least one story about another audience member tainting the experience with some form of disruptive behavior.

Don't Be Afraid to Ask Dumb Questions Don't Be Afraid to Ask Dumb Questions

Whether it’s a hot new movie, a huge sports event, or a TV show that it feels like everyone is watching, it’s no fun to be caught out of the loop during water cooler chats or party conversations. If you want to be a part of it all, let go of your pride and ask some dumb questions about it.

How to Become a Good Storyteller How to Become a Good Storyteller

Not many of us aspire to be Moth-winning level storytellers, but being known for spinning a good yarn has its social uses.

Give Your Friends the Gift of 'No Thank You Notes' Give Your Friends the Gift of 'No Thank You Notes'

It’s better to give then to receive. So, why do we still expect to receive something after giving?

It Takes 90 Hours to Make a New Friend It Takes 90 Hours to Make a New Friend

You probably know that adding people to your inner circle takes time, but how much time it actually takes to go from strangers to buddies has been somewhat of a mystery—until now. A new study suggests you need to spend at least 90 hours with someone before they consider you a real friend.

Wear Jeans On the First Date Wear Jeans On the First Date

There’s a lot of pressure to stand out on a first date, and that stress inevitably carries over to your wardrobe choices. But there’s no need to have a silly outfit changing montage before you head out to meet someone for the first time. Comfortable, casual staples like a good pair of jeans are all you need.

Find New Friends Through the Friends You Already Have Find New Friends Through the Friends You Already Have

Meeting new people and making good friends gets harder as you get older. You get less adventurous, fall into comfortable routines with significant others, and you don’t have school to force you to interact with different groups of people anymore. But if you have at least one friend, you do have an easy option for…

Never Start a Story With the Weather, and Other Rules for Better Storytelling Never Start a Story With the Weather, and Other Rules for Better Storytelling

Being a good storyteller can improve your presentations at work, boost your social skills, and make you more likable in general. But it’s not an ability that comes naturally to everyone. If you’re not sure how to go about telling stories that captivate an audience, these simple dos and don’ts will give you a good…

How to Make Puns Without Making Enemies How to Make Puns Without Making Enemies

Puns have long been the ugly stepchildren of comedy, derided for generations as the dull weapon of choice of trying-too-hard dads and uncles. But what was once considered the lowest form of humor has quietly risen in the ranks, and in recent years, the pun has gotten a makeover. Thanks to the rise of competitive…

When Do You Add Your Co-Workers on Facebook? When Do You Add Your Co-Workers on Facebook?

Deciding whom to friend on Facebook, and when, can be stressful. Deciding this in the workplace is fraught on all kinds of levels. When does a co-worker earn Facebook friendship?

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