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How to Deal With Assholes How to Deal With Assholes

If I asked you to identify the biggest asshole in your life right now, how quickly would you be able to come up with a name? Some of us might be able to list three or four assholes with whom we interact on a daily basis, plus all of the anonymous assholes who cut us off in traffic, cut in front of us in line, and…

Pretend You're Good at It  Pretend You're Good at It 

A while back, I met up with my pal Jenny Lawson, who was in town recording the audiobook version of her memoir, Let’s Pretend This Never Happened. I asked her how it was going, and she told me that it had been going horribly—until, in a panic, she reached out to a writer friend of hers for advice.

Free Yourself From the 'Nagging Data' in Your Life Free Yourself From the 'Nagging Data' in Your Life

The numbers and icons displayed on our device’s screens are meant to be useful; they tell us how much battery is left, how many unread messages we have, and when we need to update something. But more often than not, this data just nags us, constantly poking us like a toddler who wants their mother’s attention. It…

The Cognitive Biases That Convince You the World Is Falling Apart The Cognitive Biases That Convince You the World Is Falling Apart

The world appears to be in a rough place right now. If you turn on the TV or open up your web browser, you’re almost guaranteed to be bombarded by bad news. But is the world really doomed? Or is your animal brain playing tricks on you? Chin up—things aren’t always as bad as they seem.

How Much Should I Regret Not Buying Bitcoin? How Much Should I Regret Not Buying Bitcoin?

The first bitcoin transaction ever was by man who bought two pizzas. That arrangement would be worth over a $100 million today. Regret was baked into Bitcoin from the beginning. Last year, somewhat inexplicably, Bitcoin’s price rose more than 1,000 percent. That number has since dipped, but a single bitcoin is still,…

Are All These Parenting Books Messing With Parents' Heads?  Are All These Parenting Books Messing With Parents' Heads? 

I have a massive stack of parenting books on my desk. Some of them tell me I’m doing an awesome job raising my kid (those books, I dog-ear and pet lovingly). Others tell me I’m screwing everything up, from bed time to screen time. I devour them all, for my job, but also because there’s part of me that keeps looking…

How Your Mindset Affects Your Finances How Your Mindset Affects Your Finances

Money is an abstract and complicated topic, made all the more so by a never-ending stream of financial products, like mortgages, credit cards, and student loans. So how do you make the most efficient use of yours?

Why You Can't Stop Mid-Action, Even When You Know It's a Bad Idea Why You Can't Stop Mid-Action, Even When You Know It's a Bad Idea

You go to take a step up onto your porch when you realize it’s covered in shimmering, slippery ice. Your mind wants to stop so you don’t hurt yourself, but your body isn’t going to get the message in time. Here’s what’s going on in that brain of yours.

Find Out if You Have a Drinking Problem With This Online Tool  Find Out if You Have a Drinking Problem With This Online Tool 

If you’re an...enthusiastic drinker, you might have wondered at what point social drinking crosses the line into problem drinking. But if you’re worried, you don’t need to be a falling-down, having-blackouts kind of drinker to seek advice and help. Alcohol-use disorder (AUD) is a medical issue that falls on a…

Kick a Bad Habit By Replacing it With a Good One Kick a Bad Habit By Replacing it With a Good One

If you’re trying to kick a bad habit, try rewarding yourself with something in its place rather than punishing yourself when you fail. Habits are often so rooted in our subconscious that we don’t even realize we’re doing them, which can make stopping one that’s bad for us especially hard to handle.

Have More Fun With Your Partner in the New Year  Have More Fun With Your Partner in the New Year 

Most of us make resolutions to improve only ourselves: We vow to cut out sugar, work out three days a week, dust off the resume and start the job hunt for real. In general, resolutions tend to be very me-focused—willpower, weight loss, self-care.

Use This Five-Point Guide to Find Patience When You're Annoyed Use This Five-Point Guide to Find Patience When You're Annoyed

I am, and have always been, very easily annoyed. When I was little, I used to beg my mom to make my sister to stop singing in the car. “But it’s a happy noise,” she’d say. (She was right. I was being a jerk.) Annoyances are small, not serious problems, and it would make all of us and the people around us happier if we…

How to Ad-Proof Your Kid How to Ad-Proof Your Kid

When Cracker Jack decided to replace its “prize” with a QR code, it felt ominous. Instead of finding a tiny baseball card, or in more recent years, a less-cool temporary tattoo, kids are now directed to a mobile game, which lets them share a baseball-themed picture of themselves with the Cracker Jack logo with their…

Why It Feels So Good to Cancel Plans Last Minute, and How to Stop Why It Feels So Good to Cancel Plans Last Minute, and How to Stop

There’s something magical about cancelling plans last minute—yes, I’ve heard the John Mulaney joke. You instantly get to do whatever you want and not feel beholden to anyone. True freedom is only a shameful text away. But flaking out is a slippery slope that can lead to a detrimental, and fairly rude, habit. Here’s…

How to Not Be a Sore Loser How to Not Be a Sore Loser

My colleague Patrick Allan once explained how to avoid being a sore loser at competitive games. Let’s revisit his lesson in a higher-stakes context. Say, an election.

Your 50s Will Probably Be the Most Unhappy Time of Your Life Your 50s Will Probably Be the Most Unhappy Time of Your Life

Everybody’s life is filled with ups and downs, but new research suggests everyone’s life follows a particular pattern when it comes to our general contentedness. Around mid-life, we all seem to be pretty bummed.

How to Shut Down a Troll, Once and For All  How to Shut Down a Troll, Once and For All 

Even if Twitter finally bans the Nazis (lol yeah right), there will always be boring, dumb, annoying, and bad people on the internet. And sometimes they will find what you put online, and bother you about it. How do you deal with them without feeling like shit? We got some advice from Eli Yudin, CollegeHumor’s…

Boost Your Emotional Vocabulary With These Precise Terms From Around the World Boost Your Emotional Vocabulary With These Precise Terms From Around the World

There are more words out there to describe how you feel besides sad, mad, and glad—in fact, there’s a whole world of words that can describe your emotions in incredibly specific ways.

This Interactive Tool Helps You Craft Better Apologies This Interactive Tool Helps You Craft Better Apologies

Anybody can spew out some half-assed apology to save face, but a real apology takes serious introspection, sincerity, and focuses on helping the victim heal. It’s not easy to do, but this simple interactive tool can help if you’re struggling. “It’s good that you’re here,” the first screen reads when you load it up.…

How to Stop Being an Interrupting Asshole How to Stop Being an Interrupting Asshole

Nobody likes someone who interrupts people all the time. It’s rude and it actually thwarts clear communication from happening. Some of us interrupters, though, are aware of our problem and tired of being the jerk who cuts people off. Here are a few tricks for shutting yourself down.

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